The Magic of Falling in Love | Sadhguru

so what you're referring to is love is a certain moment of pleasantness if love is true it will happen without an object every moment of your life you must know the pleasantness you must constantly fall in love with everything and nothing [Music] it all depends what is your idea of love first of all if you fell in love with one woman one bird one hand one tree and something then your love is not driven by anything you're just falling in love if continuously you're falling in love only with women that means your love is driven by your hormones you better understand that so what is driven by something you want to label it as love it is fine you are not saying there is no love at all there is but what is true and what is not true is not something that you decide because of this you know because of what happened or what did not happen it is a question of how you felt whether it ended up in marriage then you realize it was not love or it did not end that way and you thought it was true love which was never realized it's up to you how you want to handle it but essentially what love means is if if your physical body becomes very pleasant generally we call this health and pleasure if your mind becomes very pleasant we call this peace and joy if your emotions become very pleasant we call this love and compassion if your life energies become very pleasant we call this blissfulness and ecstasy so what you're referring to is love is a certain moment of pleasantness now you believe somebody caused it in you maybe somebody did trigger it in you somebody did stimulate that in you or inspire that in you but essentially it is your emotions turning very pleasant which you call as love so if love is true it will happen without an object if it's really genuine true love what it means is you have made your emotions very pleasant whether a man is here a woman is here or a tree he's here aunt is here elephant is here is not the point you've just made your emotions pleasant everything that you behold you have a certain pleasantness towards it that is love now this continuously one two three four five all are women it's driven by hormones nothing i'm not saying is anything wrong with it but you must understand the limitation of it so if it ends up in a permanent bond in the form of marriage or whatever then you think it's successful if it did not you think it's a failure it need not be so i would be happy if you fell in love with the three billion women and don't leave the other three billion men also if you fell in love with three billion women it wouldn't be hormonal it would be just love i'm in love with all the women in the world and the men also the ants also and the very soil that i walk upon the very tree under which we are sitting right now whatever you behold you have pleasant emotion towards that is love and love is not about somebody it's about you being pleasant truly pleasant and this is right wrong this that is not the thing it is an intelligent way to exist there is sufficient unpleasantness in the world however carefully you walk you will step into something when this is so you don't have to manufacture your own unpleasantness within you only three times in your life if you loved i think you are a misfortune because the rest of the time you have not known that pleasantness within you every moment of your life you must know the pleasantness you must constantly fall in love with everything and nothing woman also included what's the problem with them because you cannot tie a bond with three billion women you choose one one is convenient if you marry five then you will find it's very inconvenient yes [Music] one is convenient and above all the reason why you tie a bond with somebody is at least with one person in your whole life you want somebody with whom there's no holds barred if you approach a new person always there is a little bit of you know there's a little bit of war and games happening war games are happening with a new person with one person you want to relax where you don't have to play games at least with one person you want to be in total relaxation that's the idea why you want at least one person in that is still you are not reached a point where you are simply relaxed by yourself with life itself because you are unable to relax with the whole manifestation of life around you the million manifestations of life around you totally at least with one person you want to find that that's the idea of finding a bond or building a bond with that so people who look beyond that are people they don't value relaxing with one person because now they're able to relax with just about anything they are totally at ease with everything in existence now they don't find the need to make a bond where only one place some relaxation happens rest of the place you are war like always trying to protect yourself one place where you can keep your defense mechanism down because only when you keep your defense mechanism down something beautiful can happen within you and the need to protect yourself is gone so the idea of forming a unit of family and the largest identities of community nation and whatever else is simply to find a space where you can keep your defense mechanism down and just be in a certain sense of ease because only in that ease the other possibility you find expression otherwise you will be just like an animal constantly trying to survive preserve yourself so love is seen as a possibility to go beyond that instinct of self-preservation where you're not trying to preserve yourself you're trying to offer yourself to something or somebody for that you don't need a person you can just do it simply with life [Music]