Oprah Winfrey’s Life Advice Will Leave You Speechless | One of The Most Eye Opening Videos Ever

turn your wounds into wisdom you will be wounded many times in your life you'll make mistakes some people will call them failures but I have learned that failure is really God's way of saying excuse me you're moving in the wrong direction it's just an experience an experience I remember being taken off the air in Baltimore being told that I was no longer Being Fit for television and that I could not anchor the news because I used to go out on the stories and my own truth was even though I'm not a weeper I would cry for the people in the stories and uh which really wasn't very effective as a news reporter to be covered a fire and uh crying because the people lost their house and it wasn't until they I was demoted as a on-air anchorwoman and thrown into the talk show arena to get rid of me that I allowed my own truth to come through and the first day I was on the air doing my first talk show back in 1978 it felt like breathing which is what your true passion should feel like it should be so natural to you and so I took what had been a mistake what had been perceived as a failure with my career as an anchor woman in the news business and turned it into a talk show career that's done okay for me Force started as a broadcaster I was 19 very insecure thrown into television yet pretending to be Barbara Walters looking nothing like her and still going to college so I do all my classes in the morning from eight to one and then the afternoon I work from two to ten and did the six o'clock news and would stay up and study and all that stuff you know until one two or three o'clock in the morning and then just start the routine all over again and my classmates were so jealous of me that I remember like taking my little 115 dollar paycheck and um at the time I thought it was really a lot but taking 115 and trying to appease them I would like always anytime anybody needed money I was always offering oh you need ten dollars or taking them out for pizza ordering pizza for the class and things like that trying to that whole disease to please that's where it was the worst for me I think because I wanted to be accepted by them and could not be because first of all I didn't have the time they wanted wanted me to pledge and I didn't have the time to pledge I was I didn't have the time to be a part of all the other college activities or a part of that whole lifestyle and it was very difficult for me socially really one of the worst times of my life because I was trying to fit in in school and be a part of that culture but also trying to build a career in television it's very difficult for me to even see myself as successful because I still see myself as in the process of becoming successful to me successful is getting to the point where you are absolutely comfortable with yourself and it does not matter how many things you have acquired the ability to learn to say no and not to feel guilty about it to me is about the greatest success I have achieved the fact that I have you know in the public side done whatever is fine it's all a part of a process for for growing for me but to me to have the in the kind of internal strength and internal courage it takes to say no I will not let you treat me this way it's what success is all about it's the same thing that prevents you from being abused as a child that prevents you from being abused as an adult that allows you to build success for yourself I will not be treated this way I demand only the best for myself you are worthy to say no your work that it's okay if you say no it's okay if you say no and then people don't like you that's really okay the important thing is how you feel about what you're doing how you feel about yourself it's a long struggle though it's a long struggle and I'm just hoping that you know in the work that I do on the show and the speaking that I do around the country and that young people who are watching this can get the lesson sooner than I did because it's painful because you keep repeating it over and over and over until you get it right and what I found is that every time you have to repeat the lesson it gets worse because it's you know it's I I call it God trying to get your attention the universe trying to get your attention so we didn't get your attention the first time so we're gonna have to hit you a little harder this time so I'm still doing it I'm still learning think of all the times you let a man treat you badly or someone your friends walk all over you how many times have you let hurtful words or criticism Crush you well I was uh one of those people who was raised not to have a lot of self-esteem uh and I know anybody else who was physically violated as a child as I was got whippings every day the lesson of a whipping the lesson of being heavily disciplined with violence is that you're not worthy that you're not good enough and so it takes a long time to get a sense of self-worth and self value and so I was in my 20s doing what everybody in their 20s does and looking for love in all the wrong places and looking to be validated by somebody else's View you of who I was and wanting them to say I'm okay I'm okay yes you're okay you're you're okay and I've done some really embarrassing ridiculous crazy ass things over the years holding onto the bumper of a doctor D like I could actually keep him from pulling off and I remember one time he had left and slammed the door on my hand and I had just like a lot of women had the barrier of well you can say anything to me but you cannot hit me you gotta hit me he didn't hit me with the door slammed on my hand and I thought well that's coming close that's coming very close I remember the door slamming on my hand falling to the floor and in front of me was a mirror and I saw myself on the floor with my hand now bruised and thinking I have become the woman that I watched my cousin Alice be my whole life as a kid the only difference is that I'm battered in spirit and the next step is going to be who knows so lying there on the floor is the moment I made that decision that I have now become a woman that I never imagined myself to be and I got to figure out how to get myself out of this and that was the beginning of the lesson which is I'm hoping it happens to you tonight from the stories that you're gonna see because it doesn't happen all at once even though you want it to change sometimes it takes a little longer to actually get the message the people who love you don't treat you badly love doesn't hurt it's supposed to feel good this whole idea of quantum physics physics Newton's law nature the way the order of things and how life and nature itself operates and I could see a reflection of my own self my own being and all of that and reading Newton's law third law of motion which says for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction was like a religious experience for me I just understand me all my bells and whistles and lights and dancing emojis went off because I could