Simon Sinek । 50 Minutes for the NEXT 50 Years of Your LIFE

I have five little rules that you can follow as you find your spark and bring your spark to life the first is to go after the things that you want let me tell you a story so a friend of mine and I we went for a run in Central Park the road runners organization on the weekends they host races and it's very common at the end of the race they'll have a sponsor who will give away something apples or bagels or something and on this particular day when we got to the end of the run there were some free bagels and they had picnic table set up and on one side was a group of volunteers on the table were boxes of bagels and on the other side was a long line of Runners waiting to get their free Bagel so I said to my friend let's let's get a bagel and he looked at me and said ah that Line's too long and I said free bagel and he said I don't want to wait in line and I was like free bagel and he says Nah let's it's too long and that's when I realized that there's two ways to see the world some people see the thing that they want and some people see the thing that prevents them from getting the thing that they want I could only see the bagels he could only see the line and so I walked up to the line I leaned in between two people put my hand in the box and pulled out two bagels and no one got mad at me because the rule is you can go after whatever you want you just cannot deny anyone else to go after whatever they want now I had to sacrifice choice I didn't get to choose which bagel I got I got whatever I pulled out but I didn't have to wait in line so the point is is you don't have to wait in line you don't have to do it the way everybody else has done it you can do it your way you can break the rules you just can't get in the way of somebody else getting what they want that's rule number one rule number two I like this one in the 18th century there was something that spread across Europe and eventually made its way to America called Perle fever also known as the Black Death of childbed basically what was happening is women were giving birth and they would die within 48 hours after giving birth this black death of childbirth was the ravage of Europe and it got worse and worse and worse over the course of over a century in some hospitals it was as high as 70% of women who gave birth who would die as a result of giving birth but this was the Renaissance this was the time of empirical data and Science and we had thrown away things like tradition and mysticism these were men of science these were doctors and these doctors and Men of science wanted to study and try and find the reason for this black death of child bed and so they got to work studying and they would study the corpses of the women who had died and in the morning they would conduct autopsies and then in the afternoon they would go and deliver babies and finish their rounds and it wasn't until somewhere in the mid 1800s that Dr Oliver Wendell holes father of Supreme Court Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes realized that all of these doctors who are conducting autopsies in the morning weren't washing their hands before they delivered babies in the afternoon and he pointed it out and said guys you're the problem and they ignored him and called him crazy for 30 years until finally somebody realized that if they simply washed their hands it would go away and that's exactly what happened when they started sterilizing their instruments and washing their hands the black death of child bed disappeared the lesson here is sometimes you're the problem and my point is is take accountability for your actions you can take all the credit in the world for the things that you do right as long as you also take responsibility for the things you do wrong it must be a balanced equation you don't get it one way and not the other you get to take credit when you also take accountability that's lesson two lesson three take care of each other the United States Navy Seals are perhaps the most elite Warriors in the world and one of the seals was asked who makes it through the selection process who is able to become a seal and his answer was I can't tell you you the kind of person that becomes a seal I can't tell you the kind of person that makes it through buds but I can tell you the kind of people who don't become seals he says the guys that show up with huge bulging muscles covered in tattoos who want to prove to the world how tough they are none of them make it through he said the preining leaders who like to delegate all their responsibility and never do anything themselves none of them make it through he said the Star College athletes who've never really been tested to the core of their being none of them make it through he says some of the guys that make it through are skinny and scrawny he said some of the guys that make it through you will see them shivering out of fear he says however all the guys that make it through when they find themselves physically spent emotionally spent when they have nothing left to give physically or emotionally somehow some way they are able to find the energy to dig down deep inside themselves to find the energy to help the guy next to them they become seals he said you want to be an elite Warrior it's not about how tough you are it's not about how smart you are it's not about how fast you are if you want to be an elite Warrior you better get really really good at helping the person to left of you and helping the person to the right of you cuz that's how people advance in the world the world is too dangerous and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things alone if you find your spark I commend you now who you going to ask for help and when are you going to accept help when it's offered learn that skill learn by practicing helping each other it'll be the single most valuable thing you ever learn in your entire life to accept help one of it's offered and to ask for it when you know that you can't do it the amazing thing is when you learn to ask for help you'll discover that there are people all around you who've always wanted to help you they just didn't think you needed it because you kept pretending that you had everything under control and the minute you say I don't know what I'm doing I'm stuck I'm scared I don't think I can do this you will find that lots of people who love you will rush in and take care of you but that'll only happen if you learn to take care of them first Lesson Four Nelson Mandela is a particularly special case study in the leadership world because he is universally regarded as a great leader you can take other personalities and depending on the nation you go to we have different opinions about other personalities but Nelson Mandela across the world is universally regarded as a great leader he was actually the son of a tribal Chief and he was asked one day say how did you learn to be a great leader and he responded that he would go with his father to tribal meetings an