How to Overcome Compulsions | Sadhguru

compulsiveness is coming from ingrained memory to what extent it dominates will decide how compulsive you are [Music] don't try to counter it don't try to forcefully beat it what spiritual process means is [Music] to create an awareness to become conscious in such a way that we override the memory [Music] my question is about compulsion [Music] eating compulsion drug compulsion feeling compulsion every compulsion in life and how this is connected with the a lot of noise and disturbing that we have inside how we express this noise inside through the compulsion to outside see what you call as compulsive is generally people only recognize compulsive physical behavior somebody is addicted to drink somebody is addicted to something else somebody compulsively is abusive or something else negative that they cannot avoid doing is considered compulsive but we must look a little deeper the very way we sit and stand largely it's compulsive maybe if you are practicing hatha yoga slowly how you sit how you stand is becoming a conscious process otherwise it's largely compulsive if we see your shadow how you sit down we almost know who it is because you sit in a particular way you stand up in a particular way have you noticed this every body has its own compulsive patterns compulsiveness is coming from ingrained memory you can call it genetic you can call it karmic you can call it by many other names but essentially memory has taken over your life what spiritual process means is to create an awareness to become conscious in such a way that we override the memory not just in small levels of compulsiveness of behavior or food or whatever else but in the very compulsiveness of life which has to go through cyclical process of life and death to beat the ultimate compulsion is the longing to be born and the inevitable process of life and death so when we use the word mukti i know today there are mukti chocolates and ice creams but it's okay they're making the word popular at least that way you use the word so essentially compulsiveness means something is going cyclical you are not able to beat the cyclical movement that's happening within you either psychologically emotionally energy wise or physically in your behavior patterns maybe you are noticing only the behavioral patterns the compulsive nature of your behavior you are not noticing the compulsive nature of your thought unless it becomes very acute compulsive nature of your emotion compulsive nature of the way the energy patterns move [Music] and above all the compulsive nature of your very existence every aspect of life is influenced by memory to what extent it dominates will decide how compulsive you are it is like i think i said this some time ago swami creeps upon me every day but not compulsively when uh on the headphones they hear my voice is little going like that he's coming with a warm drink which sometimes i drink and sometimes i don't but you can make this a compulsive pattern that is every day at 12 o'clock i am sorry at 2 o'clock warm drink you need it you don't need it this is called developing good habits [Music] there are no good habits all habits are bad because habit means you're trying to operate in a compulsive pattern when you feel thirsty you drink water no no not like that doctor tells you every day three liters of water half the time you were in the pee place now doctor should not tell you when to drink water you must be conscious when you need water something so simple but no no no it's all set when it's all set it looks like you're functioning efficiently yes you are efficiency without a heart is no good it's cruel adolf hitler is very efficient but inhuman this is what will happen in everybody's life unknowingly you become tyrannical maybe you will never be fortunately as capable as him but you will become equally cruel to yourself and everybody around you because you have your stupid sense of discipline now but sadhguru if i don't wake up my children at six o'clock they will wake up at noon time it is true it is true you have to wake them up at six o'clock otherwise they may become sloth so this is a fine game life is a fine game if you want to do it in a crude way you can do it but if you want to do it well it's a fine game the same thing can be done in many different ways so sadhguru how do i wake up my children sadhguru in a conscious way at six o'clock in the morning because they have to go to school at seven well there are many situations in the world which not entirely our makings but we have to sync with it otherwise we will become disaligned with everything we have to wake up the child to send him to school at seven this happened at seven o'clock not six a mother came for the tenth time since early morning and shook her son wake up you need to go to school he said mama likes me in school the teachers don't like me the rest of the staff don't like me the bus drivers hate me [Music] i don't want to go to school so the mother said no you must be responsible you have to go to the school after all you are the principal [Applause] to fulfill certain situations we create certain patterns but the pattern can be conscious pattern it may be a rigid pattern but a conscious pattern for a period of time to fulfill certain situations but it need not become a part of our system if you go with the rhythms of nature naturally some things will happen in certain ways isn't that also compulsive that every year in the month of june monsoon should come is that not compulsive it is that is the nature of that is the physical nature of the existence it is by patterns set patterns unfortunately even the monsoons are becoming a bit conscious and not coming that's an unfortunate break of pattern but physical nature is made of patterns whether individual atom or a cell or a molecule or the entire system this is the way physical is made this is the difference or distinction a human being knowingly or unknowingly trying to establish that i am something beyond the physical no spiritual teaching might have gone into an individual person but still even that person is trying to somehow prove to himself or herself that i am something more than physical if somebody treats you just as a physical entity you don't like it isn't it hello physicality falls into set patterns a dimension beyond physical doesn't fall into any set patterns that is where it is from that dimension the very idea of consciousness has risen in human mind human beings right now in the evolutionary scale of things are like let's say a bird which was left in a cage for a long time then after many years the cage door is left open but the bird never makes an attempt to fly because it's gotten used to the cage it's gotten identified with the cage and it doesn't fly this is human nature right now in the evolutionary scale of things what was a crawling creature now has become like this now the lid is blown away but still we don't crawl out simply because of habit the 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