A Dying Tradition of Marriage among the Youth

the same problem every human being faces stress strain getting married and uh traveling on the path of yoga to reach to the destination and uh not getting married going on the path of the yoga which one is the best way many youngsters like many of them they don't want to marry and few of them who marry there are occasions where they are getting diversed so would you like to throw some light on these situations with Guru okay you are stressed and strained and what so he has named his wife and children as stress strain [Applause] torture wife and two children stress strain and torture how's that I don't want you to travel in the path of yoga whatever godamn path you're traveling on take yoga with you it will make make the path easy and beautiful whether you go north or south if it is dark you take a torch isn't it only northward people take torch s people take Darkness with you is there such a thing no so you getting married is because of your needs you were not born with your wife were you you were born like this a complete human being uh because you have certain needs physical psychological emotional maybe Financial social that also is there right so various needs marriage is generally supposed to be a package which deals with all these needs physical needs psychological needs emotional needs social needs sometimes financial needs also so it is a comprehensive package that if you get married all these problems are solved in one shot sometimes they may refuse to fulfill some of your needs so you get stressed strained and tortured I want you to understand you married for your well-being not as some sacrifice for somebody's sake you married for your needs and your well-being isn't it you better remember that all your life you married and tied up the other person with you because you have needs you did not do it for the other person's sake yes or no let's be straight about this see you need to understand the institution of marriage it's about bringing a certain sanctity there are physical needs there are psychological needs there are economic needs emotional needs social needs variety of needs to fulfill all these things we set up an institution called marriage where all this can be conducted in a sensible manner otherwise if we did it on the streets like every other creature it would turn ugly for us and we will feel not good about it so to bring some sense of organization some aesthetic some stability because man and woman coming together naturally brought fresh life it is compared to any other creature it is the most helpless life which needs maximum amount of support you could leave a puppy on the street as long as he gets food he grows up into a good dog no problem but not so with the human being he doesn't need just physical support he needs variety of support and St above all stable situation whether there should be marriage in society or not one will debate when they are 18 because physical body is asking asking for Freedom all right at that time everybody questions is marriage really needed why can't we just live whichever way we want but when you are 3 years of age you valued marriage immensely a stable marriage immensely isn't it so yes or again when you become 4550 you 100% for marriage between 18 and 35 you're questioning the whole process okay because where the physical body is dominant at that time if you give into that then it will question every institution this is hormone fired Freedom okay your intelligence has been hijacked by hormones so you question the fundamentals of everything I'm not saying marriage is the thing but do you have a better alternative if you have a better alternative damn the marriage but you have not come up with a better alternative because a stable situation is a must for a child once you have a child it's a 20-year project your whims and fancies will change your emotions will change if that is what it is don't get into such situations it's not compulsory for everybody to get married it's good young are saying people are thinking whether to get married or I'm glad it is not necessary for everybody but if you get into it and if you especially if you get into children you must understand it's a minimum 20year project whether you like it or you don't like it so why did this become stress strain and torture which whichever way you have made it till now it doesn't matter if you're willing in 3 days time it doesn't matter how bad your situation is in 3 days time you can bring it to a semblance of Peace if not love if not ecstasy at least you can bring it a peaceful state in 3 days time if you are willing 100% yes or no at least you can shut up peace will happen and maybe they will love it so don't walk the path of yoga whatever ever the path you must carry yoga with you if you carry yoga with you it'll light up your path whatever path you have chosen you have chosen your path out of your needs you already done it so that's up to you those who have not done it I would like you to choose your path not out of your compulsive needs but of your conscious needs so when that stage in your life comes it is time to consciously look at your life and see will today's needs mean something to you after 5 years or 10 years will it be worthwhile to tie up your life for the simple needs that you have today or will are these just passing needs for you it's a very strong need you must marry if it is not a strong need it's a passing need you can work out your needs probably by just going to a cinema then no need to get married you know yes many people are like this their needs are not very strong it's just passing but social structure tells them you have to not necessary it must be a conscious Choice whichever way you go it must be your conscious choice not compulsive choices because if you choose compulsively you will always take it out on the people around you because you feel like a slave and you don't like it so you take it out on them and they will take it out on you so it is not about what you're doing it is about how you do it what you're doing is according to our requirements but how you do it will determine the nature of your life